Social Safety Tips for Parents
- Posted by Connect Safely
Be reasonable and try to set reasonable expectations.
Pulling the plug on your child's favourite social site is like pulling the plug on his or her social life. Instead of being protective, it can shut down communication and send kids "underground" where they're more at risk. It's too easy for them to set up free blogs and profiles from anywhere, including friends' houses or even from a mobile phone.
Talk to your kids about how they use the services.
They, not news reports or even experts, are the ones to consult about their social web experience. Help them understand basic safety guidelines, such as protecting their privacy (including passwords), not harassing peers, never talking about sex with people they don't know, avoiding in-person meetings with people they "meet" online, and taking care of what they post – because anything people put online can be obtained, reworked and used against them.
Support critical thinking and civil behaviour
Because no laws or parental-control software can protect better than a child's developing good sense about safety and relationships. Research shows that kids who are aggressive and mean online towards peers or strangers are at greater risk of becoming victims themselves. So teach them to be good citizens and friends online as much as offline.
Consider demanding that Internet use take place in a high-traffic area of your home
Not in kids' rooms – to help you stay aware of their online time. This way, you can encourage a balance between online time and their offline academic, sports and social time. Bear in mind that there are also many ways that kids can access the Internet away from home, including on many mobile phones and game players.
Try to get your kids to share their profiles and blogs with you
But be aware that they can have multiple accounts on multiple services. Use search engines and the search tools on social networking sites to search for your kids' full names, phone numbers and other identifying information. You're not invading their privacy if they're putting personal info in public "places" online. If their pages are private, that's a good thing, but it's even better if they share it with you.